Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Monday, September 22, 2014
Who is an elder? Does she have to look frail to be considered one?
Is there an age limit?
How do we show love for an elder?
My idea? An elder is someone older than I am , someone whom I respect and admire, someone perhaps whom I take for granted that she will always be here and perhaps do not show her or tell her how much she means to me.
October first, as the poster says would be that day. Join me please in showing love to an elder on October first--and any day--we never know how long we have to show someone we care.
Sunday, September 14, 2014
I met a woman this week who had herself tested for the possibility she would develop Alzheimer's disease.
She has many relatives on both sides of her family who died of Alzheimer's disease and she was curious to know what her chances were of developing this dreadful disease. She is in her late 50's or early 60's. I didn't ask her age.
Of course her expereince made me think. Do I want to get tested? Do I want to know? How would my life be different if I knew?
Could knowing I had a larger than average chance of developing Alzheimer's disease help me in any way?
Could it help you?
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Looking back with regret for the road not taken, looking back with anger at relationships from the past, looking back at all --we are advised is not good for us. We are to look forward, abandon the idea of what we thought our life would be, accept the reality of life as it is and move forward.
Satchel Paige said, "Don't look back. Whoever is behind you may be catching up with you."--another reason for not looking back.
When you love a person who has Alzheimer's disease, it is difficult not to look back fondly remembering the times you once shared and regretting the present loss of companionship. Each diminishes the present and I try not to remain there too long.
Last evening I sat by the water reading my book and watching the sun set; it was warm, pleasant and lovely. After the sun was no longer visible on the horizon, the sky began to darken and my thoughts turned toward dinner as I meandered my way back home--which was north.
As I walked I noticed folks with cameras outstretched facing behind me. Curious, I turned, looked back and beheld a sky colored with huge swirls of pink and purple. Sometimes it pays not to be so intent on the next event, idea, thought and purpose and to take the time to look back. The beauty you may behold is worth the delay.
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
We think of returning in September. We return from vacation, we return to school, we turn ourselves toward the new season and to our pursuits with more energy, more optimism, fresh from the summer doldrums. Are you ready?
Have you returned home, to see your space anew, perhaps seeing new tasks that will need to be done, perhaps admiring the place that has accumulated your memories from the past?
For most of us, we return slightly different from who we were before we left. We have had some time for new experiences which add to our knowledge of ourselves. We have met new people and reacquainted ourselves with old friends. We have proudly shared our accomplishments from the past year-- and perhaps we have considered our failures anew. We have the opportunity to see ourselves through a new set of lenses. Our friends and family who live far away remember who we were last time they saw us so we have the opportunity to see ourselves through their eyes. Do you see the change in yourself?
For the Jewish community, September is the beginning of a new lunar year 5775, a time to join with others in a prayer for peace and for the courage and the strength to accomplish our goals for the next year. For me, I appreciate even more the importance of raising money to advance research into Alzheimer's disease. I miss my husband so much; he is alive in body only, eight years after a diagnosis of Alzheimer's disease,